self-discovery and indentity
Have you ever sat with yourself and genuinely wondered: “Who am I, really?”
Not the version people expect. Not who you’ve been in survival mode. But you. At your core.
That question can feel overwhelming—especially if life has been moving fast, or if you’ve been showing up for everyone but yourself. Maybe you’re in a transition, or simply craving clarity. Either way, this post is your invitation to pause, breathe, and begin reconnecting with you.
“How do I figure out who I really am and what I want?”
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer. But journaling is a powerful place to begin. When you give yourself the space to explore your thoughts, without judgment or pressure, something amazing happens—you start hearing your own voice again.
In this post, I’m sharing 10 gentle self-discovery questions that are perfect if you’re just starting out or feel like you need a soft reintroduction to yourself. You don’t need to have the “right” answers. You just need to show up honestly. The rest will unfold.
Start here. What’s been pushed to the side? What have you been pretending is fine?
Think about moments when you feel at ease, at peace, or fully alive. What are you doing? Who are you with?
This is your chance to get clear. Sometimes we know what we want but haven’t named it.
Strip away roles, expectations, and masks. What’s left? Who shows up?
Whether it’s a habit, belief, or even a version of yourself, naming it is the first step to releasing it.
This one’s powerful. The traits you’re drawn to in others often reflect what you’re meant to grow into.
Fear and desire often walk side by side. Writing it down can soften the fear and spark your courage.
Imagine it freely. This can reveal what you truly value and crave in your everyday life.
You don’t have to have it all figured out. Self-discovery isn’t a destination—it’s a lifelong relationship with yourself. These prompts are simply the first step in starting that conversation again.
So be gentle. Be curious. Be honest. And most of all—be patient with yourself. You’re not behind. You’re right on time.
If you loved these prompts and want more support on your self-growth journey, keep an eye out for The Self-Growth Starter Kit—a gentle, beautifully created intro kit filled with prompts, worksheets, and journaling tools to help you reconnect with yourself. Coming soon to my online shop, By Raina L Collection.
In the meantime, here’s a free 5-Day Mini Self-Growth Journal—a perfect starting point for beginners.
Until then, keep writing. Keep exploring. You’re already becoming.
Welcome to your space for real self-growth. I’m here to support you as you grow into your most authentic self.
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A few years ago, I found myself overwhelmed, searching for deeper meaning. My curiosity about the world often left me with more questions than answers. As I moved through different seasons of life, I started connecting the dots and gaining clarity on who I am and what I wanted in life.
One pivotal moment caused me to pause, reflect, and ask myself: What does a fulfilling life look like for me? Embracing that realisation sparked a life-changing commitment to personal growth, which ultimately led me to create By Raina L.
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