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Learning how to build confidence is something many of us strive for, yet it often feels just out of reach. Maybe you’ve found yourself staring in the mirror, wishing you could feel more sure of yourself. Or perhaps you’ve hesitated to speak up, wondering if your voice truly matters. I know that feeling all too well—I used to second-guess myself at every turn.
The truth is, confidence isn’t some secret formula reserved for a select few. It’s a skill you can cultivate, day by day, step by step.
I’ve been on that journey myself. There was a time when I felt like an imposter, constantly questioning my abilities and doubting whether I was enough. But over time, I realised for some confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you can build, nurture, and grow. I had to build my confidence from scratch—just like strengthening a muscle, it took practice and consistency.
And today, I want to share with you how you can do the same.
Before we dive into how to build confidence, let’s take a moment to explore why it often feels so out of reach.
You might feel like your inner voice is constantly whispering (or shouting) that you’re not enough, that you can’t handle what’s ahead, or that you’re destined to fail. These doubts are more common than you think. Let’s break down some of the biggest obstacles standing in the way of unshakable confidence:
These obstacles might feel overwhelming, but here’s the truth: confidence is built by taking action—especially when it feels scary. It doesn’t happen all at once, but with small, intentional shifts, you can start stepping into your power.
Confidence starts from within—it’s shaped by how you see yourself and how you speak to yourself. If you’re constantly putting yourself down or questioning your worth, it’s no wonder confidence feels out of reach.
A simple but powerful practice? Speaking affirmations out loud to yourself—words that embody the energy of confidence. Start your day by looking in the mirror and saying:
“I am worthy of success, and I am capable of achieving my goals.”
At first, it might feel strange, but this is where consistent practice makes all the difference. When you repeat these affirmations daily, you’re not just saying words—you’re rewiring the way you see yourself. You’re training your mind to recognise your own strength.
And here’s something even more powerful: this practice helps you get comfortable with seeing yourself. Confidence isn’t just about what you say—it’s about how you see yourself when no one’s watching. Truly acknowledging yourself—flaws, strengths, and all—is the foundation of unshakable confidence.
If you want more guidance on how to build this self-belief and self-compassion, check out how journaling for self-love can help transform your relationship with yourself. You’ll find practical strategies to enhance self-worth through daily reflections and affirmations.
Confidence isn’t just something you feel—it’s something you do. It’s in your actions, your presence, and your daily habits.
Start with body language. Your posture, the way you carry yourself, and even how you make eye contact send powerful signals—not just to others but to yourself. Stand tall. Shoulders back. Hold your head high. Your presence and energy speak for you before you even say a word.
But here’s the real secret: confidence isn’t built in front of others—it’s built when no one’s watching. The daily routines you practice behind closed doors are what transform how you show up in the world.
At first, these habits might feel unnatural. And that’s okay! We all start somewhere. Confidence isn’t about perfection or arrogance—it’s about being secure in who you are and owning your value. The key is to keep showing up.
For some extra help with this, try creating small daily habits that can improve your self-perception and beat feelings of overwhelm. Simple practices like meditation, journaling, and prioritising self-care will support the confidence you’re working on.
Journaling is a powerful tool for confidence-building. It helps you uncover what’s holding you back, track your growth, and discover what truly makes you feel empowered.
Try this: Every night, write down one thing you did today that made you feel proud. No matter how small. Maybe you spoke up in a meeting, set a boundary, or simply chose to believe in yourself. These small wins add up.
Confidence isn’t built overnight—it’s built through small, consistent actions. Start embodying it now, and soon, it will feel second nature.
Confidence is built through action. Waiting until you feel “ready”? That’s a trap. There will always be some level of discomfort, uncertainty, or fear when you step outside your comfort zone. That’s natural. But the truth is, confidence doesn’t come first—action does.
The key is to start small. Maybe it’s speaking up in a meeting, setting a boundary, or trying something new that scares you. Each action, no matter how small, is a win. Every step forward proves to yourself that you are capable.
At first, it might feel uncomfortable—even scary. But the more you act despite the fear, the more confident you become. You don’t need to feel fearless to take action. You just need to take the next step. And before you know it, that step turns into momentum, and momentum turns into unshakable confidence.
If you’re ready to make that first leap, perhaps it’s time to tackle goal-setting for 2025 and visualise your growth through these steps. Taking action towards a clearer goal is the perfect confidence boost.
If there’s one thing that can truly block your path to building confidence, it’s being overly critical of yourself. That inner voice that shows up every time you make a mistake? It’s time to turn down the volume and replace it with self-compassion.
Instead of dwelling on what didn’t go right, shift your focus to what you did well. Celebrate the small wins—even the simple act of getting out of bed when it felt like the hardest thing to do. When things don’t go as planned, treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you’d offer a close friend.
Remember, mistakes aren’t a reflection of your worth—they’re stepping stones to growth. Confidence isn’t about being perfect; it’s about learning, adapting, and continuing forward with self-trust.
If you’re looking for further strategies on how to work through negative self-talk, consider revisiting how you can overcome negative self-talk and those mental barriers to see yourself as deserving of success
True confidence means fully owning your power, and a big part of that is learning to set boundaries. Saying “no” isn’t a weakness—it’s an act of self-respect and essential to your well-being.
If you’re constantly worried about pleasing others or overcommitting to things that drain you, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and lose sight of what matters most to you. This will inevitably affect your confidence.
Practice saying no to things that don’t serve your goals or align with your values. Setting boundaries is not only about protecting your time but also about honouring your needs and maintaining a strong sense of self. You are allowed to prioritise your own peace and well-being without feeling guilty.
When you take ownership of your boundaries, you create space to focus on what truly matters to you. This will empower you to take actions that align with your values, increasing your confidence over time.
Remember, people-pleasing only dilutes your energy and your self-worth. You have the power to say “no” in a kind but firm way and prioritise your personal growth and happiness.
If you’re feeling unsure of how to say no and still be kind, check out the strategies on setting healthy boundaries and saying no without guilt.
True confidence isn’t about waiting for perfection—it’s about embracing imperfection and moving forward with courage, regardless of the doubts you may have.
The more you act in alignment with your authentic self, the stronger your confidence will grow. The best part? You don’t need anyone’s permission to step into your power.
You have everything within you to become the person you’ve always wanted to be. All it takes is believing in yourself, taking consistent action, and understanding that confidence is a skill developed over time.
Here’s your challenge for today: Start with one small habit that moves you closer to your goal. Whether it’s saying no to something you don’t want to do, practising a positive affirmation, or setting a healthy boundary—choose something that feels authentic to you. Make it a part of your daily routine, and watch how it shifts your mindset.
Commit to practising this habit every day over the next week. Whether it’s through your body language, affirmations, or simply learning to say no when needed, each small action will contribute to a deeper, more consistent confidence. These actions are the building blocks for lasting change.
Remember, confidence is cultivated, not rushed. You’re already on the right path, so keep moving forward and believing in yourself. You’ve got this, and the best version of you is just ahead.
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A few years ago, I found myself overwhelmed, searching for deeper meaning. My curiosity about the world often left me with more questions than answers. As I moved through different seasons of life, I started connecting the dots and gaining clarity on who I am and what I wanted in life.
One pivotal moment caused me to pause, reflect, and ask myself: What does a fulfilling life look like for me? Embracing that realisation sparked a life-changing commitment to personal growth, which ultimately led me to create By Raina L.
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