Productivity and habits
If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why can’t I stay consistent with anything?” — this is a safe place to land with that question. Truth is, it’s exactly where many of us begin when we step into self-growth for the first time.
The real reason consistency feels hard isn’t just a lack of willpower — it’s often because we never gave ourselves the space to start with clear intention. Without knowing your why, it’s easy to get caught in a loop of motivation highs and burnout lows.
Here’s something we don’t hear enough: staying consistent is hard — especially when you’re learning how to show up for yourself in a new way. You might feel lit up with energy one day, and totally disconnected by the end of the week. You set goals, make your to-do list, start journaling… and then life happens. The habit fades. The momentum dips. And you’re left wondering what went wrong. Again.
It’s a pattern that can feel discouraging — but it makes complete sense.
What most people miss is this: Consistency isn’t just about pushing through — it’s about building habits that feel aligned with who you are and where you are right now.
If your habits don’t match your current season of life, your emotional energy, or your why, they’ll start to feel heavy. And when something feels heavy, our natural instinct is to avoid it — not because we’re lazy, but because we’re human.
So how do you build habits that actually stick — in a way that feels supportive, not self-defeating? Let’s break that down together.
And that repetition doesn’t have to be big or dramatic to be meaningful. In fact, the most powerful habits often start so small, they feel almost effortless.
Try beginning with one simple action:
Because as you commit to one small action each day, you’re doing more than just completing a task. You’re quietly showing yourself that you’re capable of following through. Not perfectly, but consistently — in a way that aligns with who you’re becoming, not who you think you “should” be.
Before you focus on what you want to do, ask yourself something deeper: “What kind of person do I want to become in this season of my life?”
Maybe you want to feel more grounded. Maybe you’re craving discipline, or softness, or clarity. Start there. Then shape your habits around that identity.
Instead of just saying, “I want to read more,” try anchoring it in who you’re becoming:
This isn’t about forcing a new identity. It’s about intentionally choosing habits that support the kind of life — and self — you’re building. Step by step, action by action.
Let go of the pressure to create a picture-perfect morning routine. Instead, build supportive, doable systems that still work — even on your hardest days.
Think: ease over aesthetics. You can always change how it looks later — but building systems that support you comes first. Start by setting up your environment to gently nudge you into the habits you want to create:
If it feels simple, it becomes sustainable. And when your habits can meet you on your low-energy days, that’s when they really start to stick.
Missing a day or two doesn’t mean you’ve failed — it just gives you information. Ask yourself with curiosity, not criticism: “What threw me off? What needs adjusting?”
This is what self-growth actually looks like: not starting over every time things get messy, but learning how to adapt with self-compassion. The challenge we all face.
Progress isn’t a straight line. Although I wish it was. But the more often you meet yourself with grace instead of guilt, the stronger your emotional resilience becomes — and that’s where the deeper growth happens.
If you’re ready to take the next step, I’ve created a free Consistency Kickstart Kit just for you.
This kit is the perfect companion to this blog post — it includes everything we’ve covered here, plus practical tools to help you build habits that truly stick.
Don’t hesitate to move forward. You’ve absolutely got this, and I’m here to support you every step of the way.
You’re not starting over — you’re starting from experience. The next time you catch yourself asking, “Why can’t I stay consistent?” — remember this:
You’re not the same person you were the last time you started. You’ve grown. You’ve learned. And this time, you’re moving forward with more awareness and better tools than ever before.
Keep going. Your growth is unfolding — one tiny step at a time.
Ready to make those tiny steps easier? Grab your free Consistency Kickstart Kit — packed with practical tools and simple strategies to help you build habits that actually stick. Download it now and start your consistency journey today!
Welcome to your space for real self-growth. I’m here to support you as you grow into your most authentic self.
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A few years ago, I found myself overwhelmed, searching for deeper meaning. My curiosity about the world often left me with more questions than answers. As I moved through different seasons of life, I started connecting the dots and gaining clarity on who I am and what I wanted in life.
One pivotal moment caused me to pause, reflect, and ask myself: What does a fulfilling life look like for me? Embracing that realisation sparked a life-changing commitment to personal growth, which ultimately led me to create By Raina L.
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